it’s a weird thing ain’t it
you fucking right it is.
Love is daunting, incredibly scary and leaves you feeling vulnerable. It is also one of the greatest things that can happen to you.
I’d say I’m lucky to have felt love before. Not the love of yourself, or unreciprocated love. Love that has been, to my best knowledge, reciprocated and felt also. It changes you as a person. Not only does it turn you into this weird, emotional wreck; it broadly changes your view on the world as you know it. Some of my friends are in love, and it is the most warming thing to observe.
You experience the world from the point of view of a connected whole, made up of two halves. Battles are shared and are celebrated victoriously in this incredibly powerful bond of two. You gain a grand sense of empathy and a desire to change the world as you know it.
You are aware of the greater disasters and triumphs in life, that simultaneously horrify and excite.
Whether you are in love or not at this moment, being in love and then not being in love is an incredibly tough process for the soul to pass through. But the remnants of the good parts remain firmly rooted in the psyche. To be in love is to be empathetic and mindful which can be applied to life in general.
Even if you haven’t been in love with a person in a romantic way, you can still experience and share love in others. You can be kinder to the environment, more generous, less selfish, genuinely empathetic towards those that need it, more charitable, wary of how lucky or otherwise you are compared to some people. You can still let it fill you up and share and form of ‘love’, or whatever you want to call it, by just living a mindful life.
The most important thing is to not rely on people for happiness in love which is MUCH easier said than done. You still must be responsible for your own happiness as much as the other person should be responsible for their own. It’s a mistake I have made before and I probably am susceptible enough to make again. I would like to feel love again, I am just sincerely underprepared. I wouldn’t say you need to love yourself to be in love, but it helps. There’s no point in living an unhappy life with yourself if you genuinely want someone to be happy with you.
To live a mindful life, delete your social media apps, throw away your smartphone. Listen to more music, play an instrument, read, write, paint, get creative. Learn to like doing stuff on your own. Ensure what you are doing impacts no one negatively. It’s harder to ‘teach’ love to people, but once people learn about how good love can be, it’s all they’ll want to do.